my parents have big problems in their marriage and my mom is now planning to leave my father.
i feel i have to be strong for their sake but i don't live near them unfortunately...we've been a tight family and it's very sad to see the family split after so long.
i left my marriage and the cult last year, my sister treats me as if i'm dead and no man wants me.... sometimes i'm so tired of having to be strong.
Sorry you are having a poopy Sunday.
Hopefully this is a new road for you. You may find you get to experience your parents in a new way when they are single. Now that my Dad is on his own he is kind of like a different guy. Turns out he has totally different preferences and ideas that my mom had. Not all changes are bad.
I know it doesn't change that bad feeling your having right now but in time you might find some peace in this.
cheers
just wondering.
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Thats him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
just wondering.
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lisavegas, jamie, mrs. jones: I think we are married to the same man
i've been "inactive"for four years now.
i am quite proud of myself for making it this far since i moved out on my own at 22 for the first time.
i've remained in school, try to live a balanced and productive life and still drive home to visit my parents at least once a month (they live 45 minutes outside of the city) luckily, my parents and i still remain close (as much as a baptized inactive child and still fanatic jw parents are able to be) and besides my mom's constant pestering about me attending meetings again and coming back to the troof, i haven't had to much stress from them or the elders.
I had a pioneer sister ask me if I consider myself or if my friends and aquaintances outside the cong. still consider me a witness. (I have been faded for a least six years.) She said that she had been told by the Circuit overseer that If an inactive person is not considered to be a witness by the general public then they would not be dealt with in a congregational manner. He told her that such a person would be considered worldly. This is a very diligent sister and I know she would have reported my answer to the "authorities".
If this is true then it would explain why no one is hunting me down. I think the key is to keep your distance from congregation members and if pressed to say you don't think anyone you know thinks of you as a witness. It's all about public perception. With your mom it is the same thing, avoiding all spiritual talk is key. Focus on family issues.
Also, as a fun note. I had the same feelings as you in wanting to know my parents better. I wrote up a bunch of questions and interviewed them. It was really fun. I wrote down their answers for myself and just let them talk. They really opened up about a lot of their youth and experiences.
well, let me tell you about my experience in dating a married woman about a year ago or so, i was dating a married woman, she did not tell me that she was married, but i found about it and i told her that i know that she is married, then she decided not to see me.
she is really hot.
well recently, i learned that my recent date is actually married, but she is also really hot, should i keep my mouth shut not telling her that i know that she is married, so i can keep the relationship with her, i would not mind because i really like her..
I'm with Mrs. Jones.
Seems to me like you already know your answer. If you just want to have sex with this women then carry on as you are.
If you want a relationship ask yourself if you would want her as your wife.
good luck
she has past in the last month and i have been trying to decide when i would post this development in my life for privacy reasons.
realizing this is quite ridiculous i am posting it now.
how sad!
Thank you everyone, you are all so kind.
I really do appreciate the lovely words and prayers(mouthy )
I really did think I was going to get love bombed at the funeral, maybe I am dissapointed in a way. It seems a vulnerable time and that they would want to use it to try to lure you back. I did get told that I knew what I had to do if I wanted to see her again.
Someone else said on another thread that when they went to a meeting they felt superior in a way. I relate to that. It's like they are still living brainless lives and I have figured it out. I feel sorry for all my old friends. They seem so lost. Although, I know they think that I am the pathetic one.
I am not really mad at my mom. I am just annoyed that she didn't see the light so to speak. She was very intelligent women but chose to hide it. She often had to control here tongue when elders would get things wrong at meetings. She had been counseled not to correct brothers with her comments. Faith will do strange things to a person. I am confident that she is now where ever death takes us and is kicking herself for having led our family down this foolish road.
As I married to a regular (worldy) guy. I have lots of support in him and his family. I also had lots of worldy friends and co-workers attend the funeral and they were around me . Perhaps now that I think of it, maybe that was intimidating for the jw's. Who knows.
I do really appreciate everyone on this forum you guys give me such a feeling of peace. Knowing there is people who understand your weird position in this world. I know I don't comment a lot, but I am here almost every day.
she has past in the last month and i have been trying to decide when i would post this development in my life for privacy reasons.
realizing this is quite ridiculous i am posting it now.
how sad!
She has past in the last month and I have been trying to decide when I would post this development in my life for privacy reasons. Realizing this is quite ridiculous I am posting it now. How sad! I can not believe I am worried about my hidden identity in this time of sadness. Yet it is poignant because she was the only reason I cared whether or not anyone knew of my "doubts".
As a faithful witness who was baptized at the ripe old age of nine. She was ever faithful to the slave and always followed to the letter the direction handed down from the throne. Her death was a sped up by her refusal of a blood transfusion. I can not help feeling so angry about her decision to deny herself extra time with her children and grandchildren for the sake of this religion.
The funeral was quite horrible in that I thought it was cold and boring. Some "sisters" put on a lunch which was nice but most of the people avoided me like the plaque. I couldn't help wondering why they showed up. Isn't the witness funeral for the living. Are they not supposed to comfort me? I felt nothing. No love, No longing to be there at the hall with them. It was as if I was a stranger in a strange land.
This is the end for me as a fader I think. I fear only for my siblings and other family members. I may be a full blown apostate now.
My mom was the only reason I stayed quiet. The only reason I hid my yoga classes. The only reason to attend memorial.
What now?
i asked myself if this was cruel.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_9kdr5-teio.
He looked like he was going to have a heart attack!
No pleasant way to bath a kitty. But this did seem cruel.
The music was choice was good.
typically, i give at least 20% on my total bill.
if the service or the waitress is especially charming, maybe more.. i wonder, when you sit at a bar/restaurant and have a meal and drinks and then order a take out ( i do this for my mother quite often) are you supposed to tip on everything, including the takeout??.
when i stay in a hotel, i typically leave 2 or 3 dollars per day for the maid.
Well I had to chime in on this one. One of my biggest pet peeves when I was younger.
I used to work as a chambermaid in my younger days. I didn't make a lot of money, but, minimum wage was like $7 or something. I had roommates and scraped by. Yet when I would go out to eat food every once in a while, like at a convention I was expected to tip the waitress generously. We both made the same wage! I never got tips as a chambermaid, or a store clerk. But if you are a waitress then people tip you out of obligation. I realize that this is very different in other countries where there is a very low min. wage. But in Canada it shouldn't be an obligation. Certainly the guy who pumps your gas, the person who cleans your hotel room, or bags your groceries, works as hard for their money as a waitress.
P.s. I waitressed a lot too. On a good night at a restaurant I would make $200 in tips. $56.00 in wages.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fyakn5ediju&feature=email.
The imperfect mom or dad could adversely affect their child by "frightening"
agreed! I too found this definition very broad. Parenting is hard and full of choices most of us don't always get right. However, I think that in my generation ( having small children now) we pay alot closer attention to what our kids are learning than my parents ever did. Except the mom in this video of course, she doesn't seem to have an (age appropriate) edit button.
